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Friday, May 15, 2009
Boundaries: Do we have the right to ask for love?
Tonight I am thinking about boundaries. I have been told that asking for love is a form of controlling another human being. What do you think?
I feel we should have self-love; self-respect and self-esteem. I think everyone should love themselves. I knew someone that said the more you love yourself the more you can love others. I believe that. You have to take care of yourself first. Can you ask for LOVE? I think only from yourself to love yourself.
I believe that to truly love someone is the opposite of control of that person. To love is to tell that person that you support them in whatever they do. Guidance is part of the equation, bur the guidance is just that, not control. To control someone is not love, that is being a jerk.
I feel we should have self-love; self-respect and self-esteem. I think everyone should love themselves. I knew someone that said the more you love yourself the more you can love others. I believe that. You have to take care of yourself first. Can you ask for LOVE? I think only from yourself to love yourself.
ReplyDeleteI believe that to truly love someone is the opposite of control of that person. To love is to tell that person that you support them in whatever they do. Guidance is part of the equation, bur the guidance is just that, not control. To control someone is not love, that is being a jerk.
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